Challenge and Change Your Negative Thoughts

By Melanie Brosnan, LCPC

Negative Thinking.

Negative thinking is fairly common as all individuals will likely go through times of feeling sad, insecure, uncertain, or stressed. However, negative thinking, if not kept in check, can snowball into mental and physical health issues.

How do you put a stop to negative thinking?

In our counseling process, we help clients identify thoughts that are negative in nature and assist them in challenging and overcoming negative thinking. In this article, I will outline one exercise we use in our counseling sessions.

Identifying Negative Thoughts

What is interesting about negative thinking, is that people usually have a difficult time noticing how negative their thinking has become.

Negative thinking can come in the form of self-limiting beliefs, defeatist behavior, lack of confidence, poor self-esteem, and generalized negativity. Typical negative thoughts are:

  • “I can’t do it, I’m just not good enough.”
  • “This is too hard.”
  • “I will never get it right.”
  • “I’m not strong enough or smart enough.”
  • “Nobody cares.”
  • “I have too much to do.”
  • “The world is a terrible place.”
  • “I should be more like…”
  • “I don’t know what I’m doing.”

WHAT IS INTERESTING about negative thinking, is that people usually have a difficult time noticing how negative their thinking has become.

The good news lies in the fact that improving positive thinking will help build resiliency, which will allow individuals to manage stress in a healthy way.

Journal Your Thoughts

So how do you change your negative thoughts?

The first step is to improve awareness of your thinking patterns. It will take time and practice to become aware of negative thoughts. But this step is necessary before you can challenge and replace them with positive thoughts.

One way I encourage clients to bring awareness to their thoughts is by completing a Thought Log. This involves noticing and writing down when a negative thought occurs. The log must include any preceding events to the negative thoughts and the specific negative thought.

Oftentimes, a person can become aware of their thinking if he or she examines a specific event or trigger and then recall what happened after the trigger.

One example of a triggering event could be not meeting a deadline at work. A person who has experienced this event may have negative thoughts such as:

“I’m a failure. I’m a terrible employee. I’m going to get fired.”

Restructure Your Thoughts

Once the negative thoughts are identified, it is time to restructure the thought to make it positive. Using the scenarios above, examples of positive thoughts could be:

“I missed the deadline, but mistakes happen. I’m going to give my best effort and work through this. I know I’m capable and will make a plan to avoid making this mistake again.”

This process of noticing negative thoughts and restructuring them to create positive thoughts can be repeated as many times as needed to create a more natural habit of thinking positively about whatever might be going on in your life. Over time, you will be able to easily recognize your negative thinking and quickly restructure your thoughts to maintain a positive outlook.

Do you find yourself struggling with negative thinking? Are you feeling hopeless or helpless about your life? Would you like to better understand your thinking patterns?

Our therapists at Ammirati Counseling are well versed in the power of positive thinking and can help you identify and change the thinking patterns that are no longer serving you which will lead to improved happiness and greater satisfaction in your life.

TRAIN YOUR MIND to see the good in everything. Positivity is a choice. The happiness of your life depends on the quality of your thoughts.”

Ammirati Counseling is a boutique counseling group with offices in Bannockburn and Downers Grovers. Therapists also offer private therapy via remote online. They provide comprehensive care to children, teens, adults, couples, families, and the LBGT community.
Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor at Ammirati Counseling
Terri A. Ammirati, LCPC, has 25+ years of clinical experience. She is a Certified Gottman Therapist and presents Gottman's "The Art and Science of Love" couples workshop.

Terri specializes in empowering clients to strengthen their relationships. She works with all aspects of relational distress and provides solution-focused therapy.
Terri A. Ammirati